Dear Future HUSBAND
For the sake of her own sanity,
She did away with the famous falsity
That you’re supposedly a knight in shining armour,
Rose in hand, come to be her charmer.
Oh yeah, you’re on top of a white horse too,
But you know you’re more like the beast that’s under you.
Just zip it and listen now,
Cuz you know you’ll shut her up right after the vow.
Unable to speak, kept from being heard,
Or even scream for help if she’s being thrown overboard.
If you hide, bend the truth- get lost.
You don’t know a thing about trust.
Forget about love and affection,
They don’t exist without this foundation.
Change a single word or a letter,
She doesn’t deserve to be with a liar.
Don’t kid yourself; she’s not your property,
Can’t use, abuse her at your own liberty.
Don’t treat her like a freebie,
You’ve no right to invade her privacy.
She’s not an idiot; Allah gave her a brain too.
You’re not the only one who may know what to do.
Gotta learn each other’s ways and language,
Then as a team you’d be at an advantage.
Fine, go ahead and do what you think is correct,
But don’t disregard her intellect.
She’s not Cinderella, you can’t chain her to the house.
First of all, she’s Allah’s slave, then your spouse.
Not here to live to feed, clean and entertain you,
Rather to plan and work her way to Jannah with you.
Don’t try no mind games, she’s had enough.
Mess with her mind, you’re gonna have it tough.
If saving face is your only concern,
Bust your ego now cuz respect is what you won’t earn.
Don’t try fear tactics cuz believers fear none but One,
Better watch out for your behaviour before you’re called upon.
You want an Aishah radiyAllahu anha? Be like her husband.
Peace and blessings be upon he, he was never of the arrogant.
When he was angry he was silent,
Never raised his voice, was never violent.
When she was upset, he didn’t get all cranky,
Instead he’d work really hard to make her happy.
Marriage is no fairytale,
Open your eyes, there’s enough for that idea to pale.
Enter this tie determined to win against the devil’s plan,
As he tries to ruin every relationship by being as merciful to each other as you can.
Overlook each other’s faults,
That’s the only way you’ll see results.
It’s going to be tough, who told you it’ll be easy?
Just remember she’s not your enemy,
Hand in hand you gotta fight him with her,
The devil as he tries to destroy your bond with her.
Are you stressed out? Didn’t think she’d be so picky?
Guess then you’re not really ready.
A life decision, she’s not gonna settle for no baby.
If there’s no one out there, it’s ok; she’s not in a hurry.
Inshaa’Allah she can wait for the Hereafter,
By His mercy enter Paradise, where she’d need no other.
The broken marriages hasn’t left much of a good taste at all,
But if it’s written for her, inshaa’Allah she’ll give it her all.
If your goal is sincerely His pleasure,
Then bismillah, go ahead and embark on this endeavour.
Jabir reported that Allah’s Messenger (sallAllahu alayhi wa sallam) said:
Iblis places his throne upon water; he then sends detachments (for creating dissension); the nearer to him in rank are those who are most notorious in creating dissension. One of them comes and says: I did so and so. And he says: You have done nothing. Then one amongst them comes and says: I did not spare so and so until I sowed the seed of discord between a husband and a wife. The Satan goes near him and says: You have done well. A’mash said: He then embraces him.
[Sahih Muslim, Hadith 5032]